This week in class we continued on our adventures of talking about finding spouses and well also married life. It is really interesting to me how often we can see that people are often doing different things to help marriages but in reality it is hindering the marriage. For example we have people that cohabitate to live together before marriage, which many studies have shown is actually a lot worse for the couple for many reasons. One they get used to escape routes, two their loyalty and fidelity aren’t as strong, three rates of violence increase and so much more. We also talked about a very interesting fact that marital satisfaction actually goes down with children. Isn’t that crazy to think about?! No matter where you are in life it goes down with all the new changes. Now it does level off as kids stop comin but with each kid it goes down but neat and strange things is that when they start to leave it starts going back up. Interesting but very true. The time spent with a spouse opens up the focus is less on the children and now more on the spouse again and there is more time to manage and let the other person know how much you care but word AND deed now that they are gone. It is neat though because even though this is true I wonder on if you were to measure the amount of knowledge and experience that was being learned during those times and I would hypothesis that you would find an increase level of learning and understanding about many things and virtues that follow along with being in a family. Because up to that point we mostly just focus on ourselves and maybe one or two other people but in a family there are a lot more to watch out for during those times. It was nice to see also that I wasn’t the only one worried about family and finances and stuff along those lines… but at the same time how do you balance all of it and when does it make the time right to follow Heavenly Fathers council… interesting and still thinking so I will leave you with that thought this week and more next week to come! J